You Are a Gift in Hard Times

I sit across from her in a mostly empty restaurant. We’ve been friends for a while, and I know her story. I know of the pain and upheaval of her childhood and early adult life. I know of the hard places she’s endured in raising her boys, and in keeping her marriage alive. I am […]

The Joy (and Power) of Knowing You’re Not Alone

Friendship … is born at the moment when one man says to another: “What! You too? I thought I was the only one.” –  C.S. Lewis, The Four Loves I spotted the young boy across the produce section. He stood next a shopping cart, with his three sisters, as dad studied a grocery list. The boy moved […]

Becoming a Better Comforter

“But my mouth would encourage you; comfort from my lips would bring you relief.” Job 16:5   I knew it when I messed up. It wasn’t an earth-shattering mess up, but it was obvious. From across the room, and through all the people, I could see she was having a different kind of morning. The […]

Who’s Holding You Up?

“Aaron and Hur held up his hands, one on one side, and the other on the other side.” – Exodus 17:12 ESV It’s been a weary week. The kind where you’re spread thin with too little sleep and too much fear and worry. Our daughter went to the emergency room twice this week. All is […]

Be an Awesome Friend, Deploy an A.N.D.

“Friends, I’d say you’ll do best by filling your minds and meditating on things true, noble, reputable, authentic, compelling, gracious—the best, not the worst; the beautiful, not the ugly; things to praise, not things to curse.” – Philippians 4:8 MSG So you have this friend …   She sighs heavily as she plops down beside […]

The One Thing I Forgot

I thank my God always for you – 1 Thessalonians 1:2 NIV You know, I wish I only forgot one thing. But the truth is, I’ve got too many commitments, distractions, and interruptions in my life that forgetting is simply my reality.   But that’s no excuse. I don’t like to forget things, and once […]

Friendship: He Calls Me Friend

“I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master’s business. Instead, I have called you friends, for everything that I learned from my Father I have made known to you.” – John 15:15 NIV This is the final installment of my friendship series Thinking about my closest friends is easy.  […]

Friendship: When Friendships Fail

“Do not make friends with a hot-tempered person, do not associate with one easily angered, or you may learn their ways and get yourself ensnared.” – Proverbs 22:24-25 NIV This is part two of my 3-part message on friendship. I was a new stay-at-home mom, and the closeness and solitude (except for the baby!) of our […]